My early years had it’s challenges, I felt different, unloved, unsupported and I didn’t believe I was good enough. To feel good, I sought others approval and helped others to feel ok.
I didn’t do well at school, and I believed I was stupid.
Having left home at an impressionable age I came close to being homeless, penniless and got into trouble with the law! I was going totally down a very dark and lonely path of life.
In my early twenties my daughter was born with a chronic life threatening illness. Over the next couple of years I developed depression, IBS, was involved in a road accident and my hair started going grey!! So I know first hand what stress can do to the body! I also had relationships that mirrored my low self-esteem.
At a party one Saturday night, a complete stranger told me they had finished an introductory course into counselling. This was the first time in my life I had heard about counselling. But it triggered a very strong feeling inside me where I just knew this was something I was meant to do. Not one to hang about! I enrolled and went back to college and then subsequently university.
I engaged in my own counselling, which I didn’t find easy but David, my counsellor, gave me a space to understand myself, to believe I deserved love, support and compassion. And slowly I began to feel better and cope better. I am eternally grateful to him and incidentally I haven’t had IBS or depression since.
In recent years I have re-connected with my spiritual self, which has helped me to feel happier and live my life with purpose. Most importantly I have learnt that you can only achieve this state, if you incorporate the emotional, mental and spiritual.
Inside all of us we carry hurts, traumas and unhelpful beliefs. We need to learn from them and heal in order to appreciate all that we have within, to live a happier life and to be the difference.
I’d be happy to accompany and support you on this journey and to share with you all that I have learned so far on mine.