Bereavement counselling helps you to grieve in a healthy way without it destroying you – be it the death of a child, partner, relative or friend, or any other type of traumatic loss, such as a divorce or the loss of a job or lifestyle. Every person can react differently to loss and psychologists have exposed the myth of the stages of grief long ago: grief does not follow a straight path from A to B, nor does it have the same intensity for everyone. On the contrary, it is a highly personal process that may manifest as a whirlwind of emotions, including anger, guilt, anxiety, loneliness, shock and numbness. Combined with physical manifestations such as insomnia, loss of appetite, dizziness or shortness of breath, grief can affect you on a professional and social level, which is why it’s extremely important not to go through it alone.
“Learning how to grieve without letting the grief pull you apart starts with understanding you can recover”
Learning how to cope with grief can be quite difficult. The emotional support of family and friends is tremendously important, but sometimes it is not enough. According to statistics, up to 33% of individuals coping with grief experience abnormal or highly intense reactions that require a professional approach. Bereavement counselling can help you navigate the complex feelings associated with loss, reach a resolution in a healthy way and recover emotionally.
A bereavement counsellor will help you understand what you are going through
One of the most delicate aspects of dealing with loss is that your loved ones often expect you to grieve a certain way. Some expect you to be sad, isolate yourself and cry. Others, to drown yourself in work to take your mind off things. Positive as their intentions might be, friends and family might not understand the spectrum of emotions you are dealing with and they might not be able to help you understand them. But a counsellor can.
Sessions are focused solely on you and your feelings. You will talk about what the loss meant for you in your own time, about the way it impacted your work, social or romantic life, and you can face your fears in the open so as to overcome them.
A bereavement counsellor is a trained professional who is familiar with both common and uncommon manifestations of loss and can make what you are going through a little less scary, empowering you to recover.
Bottling up your feelings is a ticking bomb
Talking about loss doesn’t always come easy. In many cases, individuals who are dealing with loss simply don’t have someone to talk to or they are not comfortable discussing personal feelings with friends and family. If you’re a parent, you may fear that crying in front of the children will affect them, so you bottle up everything, expecting it to go away. However, this is not a healthy path to recovery and it will keep you from reaching the resolution to the loss. In some cases, an unresolved loss can even lead to complications such as depression, mood swings, rage or PTSD, so it’s important to seek guidance and assistance from a trained professional.